Oh, the Humanity Reality!

"Then again, perhaps that is why you frequently jog around town in nothing more than a sports bra -- you lust for the attention. Please consider moving."

Now the Playboy thing makes sense...

Ms. Roth must really enjoy being hated by her neighbors. In Colonial times, there really was an offense known as "acting as the village scold." It may be time to reinstitute it. Perhaps with a good dunking of Ms. Roth in the bond below the Paper Mill Playhouse.

Roth also claims to be a big fan of, of all weird people, Eddie Van Halen. (Now there's a role model for kids in s many ways.) Well, I think Aretha Franklin could sit on both of them (along with Valerie Bertinelli and little Wolfgang) and still have more talent in one hand that those four have in toto.

I'm actually 2 sizes smaller than my wedding gown and so are a bunch of women I know. BTW, I did it by eating in moderation-- which includes the occasional donut---not by proving to the world that my boobs still look perky in a sports bra. SO THERE Ms. Roth.

I'm a mom and a wife and a woman with a secure heart and mind who has much better things to do than worry about such crap.

I must admit, I can't squeeze into my 15 year old gown but what if I had gotten married in a dress my current un-Meme-acceptable size? Would I still be welcome? Why is she assuming that all brides are thin & healthy?

Or that all women were/are brides? Sheesh! I'm beginning to despise this woman even more.

For the record, I still wear the same size jeans I wore in college!

far be it from me to discourage anyone from keeping fit and healthy, but i'll take the caloric-laden, foodie friends over the shallow ones, thanks.

i'm not very surprised she takes the nickname "MeMe."

calorie-laden, rather.

I have only one thing to say about "MeMe": She is a very vapid, poor excuse for a human being.

since i was 7 months pregnant when i got married it shouldn't be a problem.
should we have the men in the families try this same stunt? i doubt that many of them would fit into their wedding gear.

So, she's passionate about diet and excercise and is obviously making a stab at a career as a fitness guru. The Wedding Gown challenge is a cute gimmick and will probably get her the air time she is after. Who knows, it may even motivate a bunch of women to get some more exercise. More power to her and them.

You guys are just confirming my theory that if I got fit and beautiful everyone would hate me!

Oh Goodness! With all the good works that need doing in this world, it boggles the mind that this obviously well-educated, affluent woman can't find something better to do with her time! Jeepers!

I think its sad, and I wonder if theres a hint at an eating disorder there.

(Before you light the torches and gather the angry mob) I myself am recovered from an eating disorder, and like drugs or alcohol, the rehab process changes how you view food.

The no snacks for kids parties issue reminded me of a person with an eating disorder because of the level of control it displayed (if I can't have any no one can)

This new fit into your dress thing also reminds me it because it stating that you were perfect, and had a perfect body on that one special day, and if your body isn't the same then you've failed. (Yes, eating disorder people do think like that, with mantras like "Thin is a skill")

While I'm always for people getting into shape, do it healthy, and don't worry about the scale, a specific dress, but about how your body feels and how you feel in your own skin.

While I applaud the Barista for her journalistic resource if that's in fact a photo of Meredith Roth above, dang but it doesn't also bear an uncanny resemblance to the late Carolyn Bessette, speaking of someone who famously had eating, and apparently relationship, problems.

I dont see the big deal?

There are like 5000 "get fit" or "diet" gimmick's out there and this is just another one. What's wrong with giving women a challenge to get in shape.

We can make fun of it, call it pretentious, call it sexist, blah blah blah - but, I've been in a LOT of all-women environments (!!) and no matter whether they are straight/lesbian/mom/single/etc dieting always seems to be a constant topic of conversation.

A key component seems to be that you shoudlnt just fad diet to lose 10 pounds for your wedding day (or that day on the beach) but rather focus on living a healthy lifestyle and being fit every day - seems like pretty good advice to me.

I think where a lot of people had problems, Butch, is MeMe telling women who are trying to stay svelte to "ditch their fat friends."

On the one hand, I really like the idea of getting back into my wedding dress-- that dream garment that I fantasized about for the better part of 38 years, and then got to wear for a fleeting 9 hours!!

On the other, I highly resent the notion of dropping my beautiful big friends. How shallow can you get?

But this woman probably does have an eating disorder, since hanging around with plump people is equivalent in her mind to an alcoholic frequenting the local gin mill. If it feels that dangerous to her, she definitely has issues.

Individuals such as ME!ME! are usually just miserable people with very low self-esteem who find that they can only find even a liitle joy in this world by trying to make others as miserable as they are.

They are, of course, doomed to failure.

It's really kind of sad.

That does it. I've decided to ditch my skinny friends. For now on, if you don't have at least a 38-inch waist, you're not getting invited to my house for dinner and rich desserts.

The problem seems to be with the goading question. I have friends who are technically fat, but they eat better and exercise more than I do. And I know skinny people who eat junk. If one were seriously trying to loose weight one would not want to hang out with people (fat or thin) who are constantly offering one cakes and cookies. That is an unhappy place to be and those people are not being supportive. This makes good sense to me. But one should never make the assumption that fat people eat badly and skinny people eat well.

I'll hang out with whomever I want! I have the self-control to refuse something I don't want to eat or drink so what's the big deal?

i was flipping through my issue of New York yesterday...and guess who i see in the letters section (third down)...

it's responding to an article on "Alpha Moms" - as one of the few supportive voices.

all MeMe, all the time. :P

"After the delivery room, women tend to abandon their brains..."

Pot, meet Kettle.

I saw this letter and I THOUGHT the signature looked familiar.

Good work, Miss Martta!

She's crazy. You should starve yourself now because you starved yourself then ?!?!

Q: Why now?

MeMe Roth: June Brides all over the country are starving themselves silly as we speak. They’ll get to an unhealthy and unrealistic weight just in time for their wedding day.

You guys are unbelievably harsh...I am a fierce lesbian feminist (and, terribly out of shape as well!), and her words just aren't bothering me that much!

"After the delivery room, women tend to abandon their brains, body, and libido."

Is that not often true? Very often, women become "moms" and then they give up their aspirations, dreams, fitness, well-being, and sex life. It's unfortunate that this happens to so many women and I definitely think that you can be a mom who doesnt give those things up! But, women are socizlied to think that all that matters is their family, not their own wellbeing - so, they stop taking care of themselves.

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Her point is that this is not anything new...women ARE starving themselves to lose that "10 pounds", but they aren't looking at the bigger picture - which is that just starving yourself to lose 10 pounds for one day is ridiculous. Rather, you should focus on just living a healthy life ALL of the time.

Butch, I know very few moms who give up their aspirations, dreams, fitness, well-being, and sex life after having babies. Most women I know are very conscious about maintaining themselves as the people they were before motherhood. It's not easy, because having children, especially little ones, is utterly consuming, but that doesn't mean we aren't trying.

Seriously, Melinda? Because I know tons of women who give up their identities and happiness and health and dreams and completely change after becoming mothers. Especially if you are low-income, you no longer have the money to buy yourself the things you need and instead spend it on your kids. You're not able to spend your time doing all the things you want to do, but rather have to spend it doing things the kids want to do. Sure, some women escape this - but, it is definitely a common phenomenon. If it weren't, then there woudlnt be Oprah show after Oprah show about it..there woudlnt be so many women's magazines catering to it, etc.

once again another way to bring down young woman's self esteem. This society is consumed with weight , and body image. How about having a contest to tell the world how many wonderful things you've done since you got married.Yes, I still have my 29 year old wedding gown. Does it fit, well it's alittle snug, but boy I have come a long way as a person...

once again another way to bring down young woman's self esteem. This society is consumed with weight , and body image. How about having a contest to tell the world how many wonderful things you've done since you got married.Yes, I still have my 29 year old wedding gown. Does it fit, well it's alittle snug, but boy I have come a long way as a person...

"How about having a contest to tell the world how many wonderful things you've done since you got married?"

ARGH! Why does a woman have to be MARRIED to have done wonderful things? I fell like I fell into a time warp back to the 1950s!

Of course, butch, having a child is a huge change in a woman's life. Nothing prepares you for it. It is utterly consuming, you lose most of your personal space and freedom, the child's needs take priority over yours. And, because of biology and culture, much more of the child care tends to fall on women.

But most women that I know retain their personalities, their interests, their desire to take care of themselves and to have good marriages, and, in many cases, their careers. It's not easy to find time for all that, and your own needs often do take a back burner. But that doesn't mean you just dissolve into a mindless pile of lard.

I resent these doodooheads denying my right to turn into a mindless pile of lard after childbirth. Party Poopers. And my fat friends don't do nearly as much to derail my dietary goodness as my mom does - should I drop her, too? I'd rather be fat and happy than thin and alienating everyone under the sun.

I'd rather be thin and happy than fat and alienating everyone under the sun.

Dear Miss. Martta, I think you mis- understood what I was saying. No, you don't have to be married to do wonderful things. ALL women in general should not be subjected to a "thin" body image, it's just plain degrading. What we should be focusing on is all the great things women do in today's world . Trust me, I am the furthest from the "50's" image as you can get.

Fat people suck. Wasn't there a song about fat people... or was it short people?

speak for yourself porky.

do you suck? do you need lessons in how to suck better?

maybe pole dancing will shore up your lagging sex life. I hear that they're giving Pole dancing classes for Porkers at Red Cheetah on Tuesday nights starting at 7:30pm.

do yourself a favor and sign up.

I'm all for combatting obesity, but this MeMe person seems to be forgetting that health and size don't always go together. Sure, it's unhealthy to be hugely overweight, but is it better to be a size 0 than a size 5? Or a size 4 instead of a size 8? I don't think she understands that this is exactly what she is implying. To MeMe, it's fat or nothing.

maybe she'll diet herself down to non-existance. that would be good.