Making Eye Contact and Being There

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 4:35pm  |  COMMENTS (34)

I recently went to my nephew’s baptism, and when I looked back at the video I had taken at my sister’s request, I felt a wave – albeit a small one – of shame wash over me.  The pastor’s face reflected an obvious annoyance that affected even this extremely lapsed Lutheran.  Later that week, capturing an image of my son kicking a goal into a net and receiving a medal meant I didn’t actually see the goal in person; I saw a digitized version of it in the camera’s screen.  It’s not nearly as high-definition as the first person experience I could have had.  The recent concert put on by my children’s preschool was preceded by the director’s request to take photographs only before and after the performance; only a few parents followed directions (I taped it from my lap, employing the highly developed note-passing skills I learned in seventh grade.).  And at graduations, parents all over our area photograph and videotape their children walking down aisles and picking up diplomas, and they’ll see it all through the miniature lo-res screen of their smartphones or cameras.

I understand the motivation; I participate in the act.  Preserving the special moments in our lives is a way of documenting and remembering.  Digital photography and huge storage capabilities have allowed us to file away every moment of our lives for rainy day viewing.  But just as we should not necessarily DO everything we CAN do, perhaps the ability to document a moment and save it for later has watered down our real life experiences to the point where we have forgotten why we wanted to document them in the first place.  We are sacrificing significant moments to show how special they are.  And those moments are becoming a little less sacred the more we focus on capturing them.

I also think the discomfort I felt while holding my camera over the heads of those with a better view of my nephew’s baptized head comes from the realization that my focus on technology during a baptism is not too far removed from talking on a phone or texting while driving – one of my pet peeves and something that has caused more than a few close calls in my life.  It all comes down to paying attention to where you are now and the people sharing that space with you. Continue Reading

United Way Stocks Montclair Pantries

Friday, Jun 24, 2011 4:22pm  |  COMMENTS (3)

Summer solstice was also a a United Way Day of Action, and on June 21, AmeriCorps member Kate Torsiello, AmeriCorps leader Isis Haylett and Montclair State University Bonner AmeriCorps student member Alyssa Nittolo (pictured) dropped off donations of food supplies to Human Needs Food Pantry.

In a partnership with Montclair State University and AmeriCorps, United Way of Northern New Jersey stocked two area food pantries with basic food supplies as part of an annual day of service campaign.

The Human Needs Food Pantry served 467 families, representing a total of 2,923 people in May and distributed 56,630 pounds of food and basic toiletries to clients in May alone, according to Deanna London, executive director. The pantry serves families in need living in Bloomfield, Caldwell, Cedar Grove, Glen Ridge, Fairfield, Livingston, Millburn, Montclair, North Caldwell, Roseland, West Caldwell and Verona.

Flyin’ Your Flag

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 2:23pm  |  COMMENTS (9)

Ok kids….it is time to dust off the Sousa records….crank up the Kate Smith and celebrate Old Glory.  It’s also the time of year for me to listen to my brother go on about Turkey’s flag being astronomically inaccurate ( this really ticks him off). Continue Reading

My Favorite Place: Fabulous Wallcoverings

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 1:15pm  |  COMMENTS (3)

Women of a certain age who have lived in Essex County for a certain amount of time are likely to remember Fabulous Wallcoverings — an amazing store that existed in one of the Edison factory buildings in West Orange. Unlike other wallpaper stores, Fabulous had bins and bins of wallpaper rolls in stock — about 14,000 patterns at any time — at major discounts. You could literally walk in, pick out your pattern, go home and put it on the wall. Most rolls cost $9.95.

You had to ascend a very long staircase to get to the second-floor establishment, and it could be tough if you had a toddler in tow — but it was worth it.

That Fabulous has been gone since 2007, victim of a downtown redevelopment project that stalled in 2009. (The project appears to be happening again.) They relocated to an office building next to 4Sixty6 Lounge on Prospect Ave. in West Orange, where they still provide the services they always did — wallcoverings, window treatments and upholstery — but without the ready-to-purchase rolls.

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RIP Peter Bocour

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 12:00pm  |  COMMENTS (6)

The art world, especially the art world of Montclair, is mourning Peter Bocour, who passed away yesterday after a battle with leukemia.

Peter was a well-known painter of abstracts, whom Bernadette Baum interviewed, along with wife Nina, for a story in Barstanet last December. He was 62. He is survived by Nina, who is also an artist, and his daughters Angelica and Nico.

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NJ Deer to Receive Contraceptives?

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 10:37am  |  COMMENTS (13)

Will the deer of Essex County be put on birth control instead of being shot? A campaign headed by the League of Humane Voters of New Jersey — which has strongly objected to the use of hunting as a form of deer population control — says that they have cleared the way for the use of a more humane alternative, the immunocontraceptive Gona-Con.

The group pushed for the final administrative step to be completed, making NJ the second state in the country to officially “register” the product. “It still has to be approved by the NJ Division of Fish, Game & Wildlife, but it’s a good start,” said activist Carol Rivielle. “We’re hoping that the County Executive will decide to use this non-lethal method in South Mountain Reservation, Eagle Rock Reservation and Hilltop to replace the “annual” deer hunts.” Continue Reading

Carjacking in Bloomfield Cemetery

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 10:12am  |  COMMENTS (3)

Is nothing sacred? A 60-year-old woman from Vernon was carjacked yesterday in Glendale Cemetery in Bloomfield, while visiting a relative’s grave. The victim was not identified. After visiting the grave, she returned to her car to find the door open and a man inside. He demanded her keys.

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Authentically Trenton

BY  |  Friday, Jun 24, 2011 9:05am  |  COMMENTS (7)

Last night, the big guy won a big victory in Trenton. Public worker unions in New Jersey — teachers, cops, firefighters — will no longer be able to collectively bargain their health benefits. Christie says the legislation will save the state’s underfunded pension system and save taxpayers $3.1 billion over the next 10 years. The legislation passed the state assembly 46-32, with most Baristaville assembly representatives voting against it. Assembly speaker Sheila Oliver, who represents the 34th district, did vote in favor.

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Rediscovering a Time Capsule in Glen Ridge

BY  |  Thursday, Jun 23, 2011 4:00pm  |  COMMENTS (3)

“Hello! Greetings from 1981. Greetings from the previous teenage generation! Our class has left a TIME CAPSULE for you to find, unseal and analyze.”

Thus starts an Oct. 28, 1981 letter from the 5th, 6th and 7th graders at the Glen Ridge Middle School, offering up a time capsule to the Glen Ridge Class of 2011. Along with the letter is a detailed map of where the time capsule was buried, an article from the Glen Ridge Paper, and a list of the contents — including a newspaper article about the fire at Linden school several years earlier, baseball cards and a tape of top 10 songs from the time.

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Montclair: Theft at Diamond Cycle, Suspicious Activity

Thursday, Jun 23, 2011 3:57pm  |  COMMENTS (0)

Wallet stolen at Little Gym, suspicious activity near Carey’s Woods and bike theft and threats at Diamond Cycle.

Theft

On 6/22/11 at approximately 6:50 PM, police received a report of a theft that occurred at The Little Gym on Greenwood Avenue. The victim stated that she was watching her children at that location on the 22nd when she placed her pocketbook in a storage hole at approximately 5:45 PM. When she returned to retrieve pocketbook approximately forty-five minutes later, she found that the pocketbook was unzipped and her wallet, which had been inside the pocketbook, was missing. The wallet, valued at $20, contained various identification cards. There are no suspects at this time.

Anyone with further information is asked to contact Detective Joseph Anderson at 973-509-4706.

Drinking in Public

On 6/22/11 at approximately 7:25 PM, police responded to Park Street and found a male with an open container of vodka. A 49-year-old Montclair man was issued a summons for violating a township ordinance prohibiting the consumption of an alcoholic beverage in public.

Suspicious Activity

On 6/22/11 at approximately 10:15 PM, police were patrolling the area of Harrison Avenue near Nishuane Park when they observed to be a juvenile male walking north on Harrison Avenue while concealing an unknown item under his shirt. Police attempted to detain the male, but the suspect fled east through the park when he saw police approaching with their vehicles. The individual fled into Carey’s Woods, where police lost sight of him. The suspect is described as a black male, sixteen to eighteen years old, and approximately 5’10”. He was last seen wearing a dark-colored shirt, blue jeans, and a baseball cap.

Theft

On 6/22/11 at approximately 12:55 PM, police responded to Diamond Cycle on Bloomfield Avenue on a report of a theft. Upon arrival, police spoke to an employee, who stated that a bicycle had been stolen from the store on 6/20/11 from an outdoor bicycle rack. The employee said that surveillance video showed that the bicycle was stolen by a black male while a Hispanic male served as a lookout on the 20th at approximately 2:40 PM. The bicycle, described as a red-colored BMX-style Mosh Lux valued at $350, had not been locked to the rack at the time of the incident. Both suspects are described as being ten to thirteen years old.

The victim then stated that on 6/21/11 at approximately 8:00 PM, three juvenile males entered Diamond Cycle and were advised that the store was closed. The juveniles became upset and began yelling and making sarcastic remarks directed at the employee. The three males then exited the rear of the store, and the employee noticed that the same bicycle that had been stolen the previous day was hidden in between two vehicles in the parking lot. The employee attempted to retrieve the bicycle, but one of the group, described as a black male between fifteen and seventeen years old, got onto the bicycle and rode it away. The employee chased after the juvenile on the bicycle and the suspect proceeded to drop the bicycle and flee on foot.

The employee stated that he returned to the store with the recovered bicycle, but the three juveniles returned and yelled, I’m gonna smash you out in front of your b*****!” and called him a “stupid white motherf*****.” The juveniles then told the employee that they would return later to smash the windows and threatened that he had better “watch his back.” The juveniles were again chased from the area by the employee.

Anyone with further information is asked to contact the Juvenile Aid Bureau at 973-509-4733.

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